What is the world coming to when this is becoming normal for young kids?

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Excuse me while I share a little Too Much Information with you. I’m 34 years old as of last month. Although I bought a kit at the pharmacy once when I was a teenager, I have never in my life had my legs waxed. I did try, but the kit was cheap, or maybe I was just too chicken and the first strip hurt so much that it was not appealing to me to try a second one, especially when I saw that my fear had caused me to only tug on the leg hairs rather than actually pulling them out. Long live the razor.

If I haven’t ever waxed my legs, you can probably imagine that of course I’ve never had a bikini wax and for the love of all that is holy and good, I don’t think I could ever see it happening. Ever. Which is why it’s good that I’m not a supermodel or actress who likes to cavort in the tropics in a skimpy bikini because it could be a bit embarrassing and the paparazzi would have a field day.

So, when you consider that I’ve never actually waxed my legs and that I would rather walk barefoot across hot coals than apply wax strips to my nether regions, you can probably imagine how many brain cells I lost when my head exploded upon reading the story about a a New York City salon that sees girls as young as eight years old – for bikini waxes.

Now I will always fully admit that I don’t understand what goes on inside the mind of a pageant mother who finds joy in putting makeup a la Tammy Faye Baker all over their young child and then getting them to parade around to be judged on whether they’re pretty enough. Hello, self-esteem issues.

But the pageant mothers suddenly look sane compared to the mother of an eight year old girl who walks in to book a bikini wax for her. What can these people possibly be thinking? According to the article, “for waxing, 12 years old is the ‘new normal’” and that is scary.

What kind of message is this teaching? And for the love of GOD, why does someone who is EIGHT need a bikini wax anyway? Even if they’re developing a little early and do have some hair, a) it’s normal, and b) WHO IS GOING TO SEE IT? If your daughter is exposing pubic hair at the pool, then maybe you need to ask yourself why your young child is wearing a bathing suit that is skimpy enough to reveal it in the first place?

Meanwhile, the owner of Wanda’s European Skin Care Center in New York City is apparently proud of this whole young waxing trend. Check out this snippet from the article – it’s a shame a bald head isn’t considered as attractive as a waxed body since reading it made me just about pull my hair right out:

boasts on its Web site that children 8 years and older can get discounted waxing for “virgin” hair. “Virgin hair can be waxed so successfully that growth can be permanently stopped in just 2 to 6 sessions. Save your child a lifetime of waxing … and put the money in the bank for her college education instead!” the salon proclaims.

The owner could not be reached for comment, but did tell the New York Post that she has seen more than 200 kid clients this year and that kids should begin waxing at 6 years old.

I just… you know, it’s so hard for me to keep myself from letting loose with a very long string of rage-induced profanity.

What scares me on top of this horror is this question – what next?

If girls are waxing by age eight, what will they be doing when they’re teenagers? Breast implants at 13? Botox at 15? How much are these girls going to hate themselves for not being whatever they think “perfect” is?

I wrote about this sort of thing before and it saddens me that half a year later, it looks like it’s only getting worse.

Why are so many mothers, of all people in the world, MOTHERS, pushing their young daughters into this downward spiral?

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  1. Andrea says:

    At first, I skimmed this and thought it was talking about leg waxing but then.. BIKINI WAXES?

    o_O *falls over ded*

    WTF? WTH? WT… ?

    *GAH*

    I’m going to lock up my daughters now.

  2. Randi says:

    I almost want to say that this is totally an American thing. There are a number of cultures around the world where women never shave, either their legs or their arms, and certainly not their bikini area. I have no problem shaving my legs, and even go in every once in awhile for an eyebrow waxing (totally necessary in my case LOL), but I’ve never had a bikini wax.

    I hope my daughter doesn’t think that she has to have any of this done when she’s older – yipes!

  3. wendymc says:

    Wow. So very wrong. I feel very very bad for young children feeling these kinds of pressure.

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  4. The link doesn’t work but I don’t have to read it to say WTF? SO glad I don’t have daughters. Jesus.

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  5. Sherry says:

    Dammit, sorry. Fixed the link!

  6. Erin says:

    This is ridiculous. Especially the bit about girls starting to wax at age 6 to permanently stop hair growth. That’s a total violation of rights to have your parent make that decision for you. On the one hand, many of these girls are going to develop serious body image issues. But what about those few who see through the bullshit as they grow into young adults and WISH they could grow pubic hair? It’s a very common thing for young women to forego removing body hair (from legs to pits to pubes) as a sign of their independence from society and as a form of empowerment. That ability should not be removed. I had furry legs for almost a year and, although I have started shaving on a regular basis again, would be horrified if I couldn’t grow leg hair.

  7. KT says:

    Ugh, it’s like the fetishization of virgins that seems so popular. Except this is the fetishization of bare bikini areas, which to me = prepubescent pootang, and by extension, pedophilia. I shave my armpits for hygiene reasons, but you won’t catch me with a razor blade any closer to my lady bits than the inner thigh (just to make it possible to wear a bathing suit). Just the thought of razor burn or that waxing pain down there makes me shiver.

  8. Sarah says:

    I’m 20 and very pressured to look like the girls in playboy. I’m happy that I am married to a man who doesn’t care if I shave or not. I also have a 3 month old daughter. Now I’m worried that I won’t be able to make her see that real women don’t look the same in mags. I hope I can show her that intelligence, strength, personality, and respect are way more important than physical looks.

  9. Carrie k. says:

    These mothers have simply lost their minds. They should match all the money they pay for bikini waxes and put it into a fund for a shrink when their daughters grow up completely insecure with huge body issues. Gah.

    My 11 year old hasn’t even started shaving her legs, and the idea of shaving down there would be horrifying to her.

    Carrie k.s last blog post..Butterfly Kisses

  10. Nicki says:

    Wow – bikini waxes at eight were SO not what I signed up for when my daughter was born. Lord, help me raise a daughter who doesn’t think this is normal!

    Nickis last blog post..Great money post…or advertisement?

  11. Lindsay says:

    Well, If 2-6 sessions would have saved me a lifetime of this, I’d say why not do that for your kid.

  12. Sherry says:

    Lindsay – are you actually serious with that question? How about because it’s cruel to pin down a six-year-old child and rip their body hair out for no good reason other than cosmetic.

    How about because you’re making a choice for your child that she may not want. I have no interest in a full bikini wax and I’d be angry if that was taken away from me, and won’t do it to my children.

    How about because it’s teaching her that body hair is somehow wrong.

    How about because if she grows up and decides she’d feel more comfortable without it, she could deal with removing it in whatever manner she prefers, and there are permanent ways to do that if that’s what she really wants.

  13. Rasee says:

    It horrifies me that mothers are now teaching their daughters (their VERY YOUNG daughters, I might add) that certain things about their bodies are unattractive. You would hope that women would understand the pressure they are under to look a certain way and not put their daughters through the same thing. Appalling.

  14. This article makes me really sad. I have a 9 year old daughter – and she’s not getting waxed! (I don’t wax either – I’m just like you are.)

    Bah…

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  15. Jeanelle says:

    OMGoodness! I completely agree – what kind of msg is that sending those young girls. We’re starting the self-loathing early.

    Although, I’d have to be honest and say that if I could have done a few mos of waxing at an early age to never have to shave my bikini area again, I think I’d have taken it. I hate shaving there!!!

    Jeanelles last blog post..Nature’s in the house

  16. LadyBlayde says:

    My 6 year old hasn’t hit puberty yet – no hair! I can’t imagine the horror of her starting so young, let alone trying to get her waxed. Oh, those poor children!!!

  17. Sue says:

    The world is totally mad….do these mothers not care about their offspring?

  18. alyssa says:

    This is so outrageous. When I was 15 my boyfriend at the time was very persistent about me shaving my pubic hair all off and being an insecure 15 year old I did. It took me 5 years to realize that I didn’t feel sexy with a shaved vagina. In fact it made me feel like I was a child and made me question any guy who wanted their partner to look like she hadn’t hit puberty. It worries me though that these girls barely hitting puberty might never get the choice to truly look like a woman. These mothers shouldn’t have children and must have huge body issues themselves.

  19. Jillian says:

    The owner thinks that children should start waxing at six years old.

    I will let that sink in for a moment.

    SIX YEARS OLD? A six year old shouldn’t have pubic hair to begin with! I understand that new hormones in food are making children develop faster, but six years old? That is a first grader! Thats when most people are starting to read, not get waxed.

    That makes me furious.

  20. Peg says:

    The infantalization of women is pervasive. Now we want to keep the infants as infants. Totally disgusting…. but don’t kid yourself. If waxing isn’t desirable, shaving is the next best thing!

    Was never so shocked in my life as when I took my 15 yr old granddaughter to the OB-Gyn and she stated she had shaved for the occasion!!!!!!!!

    But trust me…. It is all over the internet! Men and women shave anything and everything. Then it’s botox, and implants that look like throw pillows. Yet 48% of Americans don’t know that the sun is a star.

    We have one screwed up culture!

  21. Mardie says:

    To tell you the truth, I just stumbled upon this post, and I was outraged.
    I am from Mexico, and I shave down there just enough to keep it nice and clean. In Mexico, we are soaked with American culture, so it is (also) considered “beautiful” to be hairless.

    Pubic hair (along with breasts, menstruation and hormones) is what makes us women instead of girls!

    I am sorry if this does not make any sense, I am a bit confused and angry, and I just wanted you all to know that

  22. Kate says:

    Wow, I don’t even know where to begin on this entry…

    However, I refuse to let any sharp object go towards my snatch… I rock and love my bush!

  23. Abs says:

    I have two points of view here, waxing of children outrages me and reminds me of a boutique about 20 miles from where I live where the middle aged male shopkeeper was displaying ‘adult’ underwear complete with suspenders for children from age 8 in his window. This makes me want to vomit and lash out in equal measure!! That said, I do think that we have to be realistic about REAL teenagers and their body image. yes we can tell them they are all beautiful and to us, as mothers of course they are, however ignoring issues that cause them real distress in favour of remarks like ‘you’re beautiful just the way you are’ is of little or no use to the young women in question. If it TRULY bothers them and they can articulate that then you should take them seriously. Just consider how you would feel if they decided NOT to talk to you about something much more serious because they dont think you will respect their worries?!

    I suppose in essence what I am saying is remember that our youngsters dont always have the strength of mind of adults to say no but that doesnt always make them wrong.

  24. Jessica says:

    Bikini waxes for children is utterly disgusting, and and makes me feel embarrassed to be an American. Excuse me while I vomit.

  25. Maggie says:

    What if bald pudendas are out of fashion by the time these poor unfortunate little victims are adults? Are they going to have to buy merkins? What a world we live in.

  26. bunny says:

    I personally don’t think I would ever wax, legs, eyebrows or anywhere, but if other adults wish to then it’s not my place to stop them. However to me shaving the bikini area is something someone does for sexual reasons, for themselves to feel attractive or for their partner(s) to find them attractive. Pubic hair is about sexual maturity, something I would hope a 6 or 8yr old would never have to deal with, I don’t believe children should be patronised, but this whole area should remain about adults only.

    I’m not a law buff or anything, and if the New York Post is writing about it with nothing stopping it then I’m sure the practice must be legal, but should it be? People are putting young children through an unnecessary, painful procedure which could (apparently) prevent them from developing normally physically, worst of all they are doing it to the child’s pubic region. That, in my opinion, is abuse.

  27. Divaliscious says:

    Holy Toledo! I couldn’t believe this when I read this….
    I agree with you, and am aghast at people would allow such torture at such a young age – now some women do have extra hair, and may have even quite dark hair – but they should determine how they want their hair to be – removed, shaved, waxed, bleached, etc.

    I can recall at 12 im 40 something… when I asked my mother about me shaving my legs – instead, we bleached the hair…problem solved for a few years until I was able to take care of things myself… we shouldn’t be made ashamed of our own bodies… yikes

  28. Fiona says:

    Oh my goodness! I feel sick! I can’t believe people actually do this to children. It’s barbaric! Sometimes I think their should be an interview and examination process before some people are allowed to procreate!

  29. Very sad!! You should all be blaming the television for this one. These disgusting, degrading women such as Lindsay Lohan, Paris Hilton, and Jamie/Britney Spears young girls look up to them. It’s a disgrace what this world is coming to. They say the average age to start having sex is 12 years old. DISGRACEFUL!!! What will this world be like twenty years from now. Will people be walking around naked? There are no morals left in the world today.

  30. No way, no way, no way, no way!!!!!!
    I’m simply (sort of) speechless and horrified and disgusted and confused and angry and….

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  31. co says:

    i was in pageants as a child and have no self-esteem issues at all
    actually, i have trouble identifying with friends who are constantly criticizing their bodies and faces

    … but i entirely agree about the whole bikini wax nonsense

    hello!! they’re children

  32. Delaney55 says:

    I have never waxed anything and don’t intend to but that is my choice and I am an adult. Taking away a child’s choices and doing something as adult as bikini waxing is horrid.

    My view is the parents that do this type of thing should be arrested for child abuse or sexual battery. When is it legal for someone other than a doctor to touch a child’s privates? Arrest the person at the salon for sexual misconduct as well.

    Are we as a society saying it’s okay to do things like this to children? What’s next, cosmetic surgery or boob jobs when girls are 12 or 13 if they don’t develop quick enough?

    Scary, scary and wrong.

  33. GrowHairOrNoHair says:

    My Bush would make a better President, un-shaved or waxed, but not my daughter’s.

  34. sasha says:

    ok.. this isn’t going to be a very popular comment… and I’ll admit first of all that I do NOT have kids.
    I’m 42 and for the past few months have been going to get bikini laser hair removal… I never tried waxing because yeah… it’s scary… but I know a lot of friends who do and they continue to because it’s worth the pain.

    so… first of all I’d like to say to those who pass judgment about those of us who do wax or laser… maybe you are lucky enough that merely shaving does the trick. whatever it is… but you can’t be a liberal free-thinker and pass such harsh judgment at the same time!

    BUT THIS IS ABOUT 8 YEAR OLDS!!! when I was 8 I was a child… no hair no nothing… but this was 34 years ago!! we didn’t have all the crap that is in our food now, and girls are maturing faster. So… maybe 8 is the new 12?? something like that… If I had the option at that point in my life to go in for a few treatments and kill the hair follicles for goos, I would go back in time and do it!! for the record… waxing such fine “virgin” hair doesn’t hurt that much.. and should NEVER EVER be compared to the horrible practice of female genital mutilation!!! HOW DARE YOU trivialize Genital mutilation??!!!

    I can’t imagine the girls are going in there screaming against their will, so don’t call it child battery either. FOOLISH – yes! misguided- YES.

    But honestly, can’t you find something more serious to bitch about?

  35. Sherry says:

    Sasha – A line like that last one never fails to make me laugh. You think we’re bitching about something that isn’t serious, but you took the time to leave a five-paragraph comment? Okay then.

    Like you said, you don’t have kids. Please realize that when they are talking about waxing 6-8 year old girls, we’re talking about people who may not even fully understand what they’re getting into. Not everyone wants the same amount of hair removal; what happens when they’re older if they decide they would prefer to have a little more?

    Also, hair removal is usually done for the sake of appearance. I DO have kids and I don’t want them revolving their whole world around physical appearance at the age of eight, thanks. And why would they need to have waxing done? Girls who are eight should not be wearing string bikinis, there’s no need for them to be so revealing that pubic hair is an issue.

    That’s why it’s serious. It’s serious to those of us who HAVE young girls and don’t want them to live this way.

  36. PissedMom says:

    I have a 7 yo daughter who for the record has no pubic hair as yet, thank God. I will say this, she has a mole in one of her eyebrows that causes the hairs to curl around it. Well, there was one hair that no matter what I did I could not get it to lay straight and I talked a very reluctant little girl into letting me pluck that ONE errant eyebrow hair. I warned her that it would sting a little, then quickly I plucked it out…OMG she howled!!! She was royally pissed at me. Now could you imagine her reaction to having her pubic hair ripped out?? How could any mother sit by and PAY someone to do this to her little girl.

    This concept makes me incredibly angry. I have shaved my pubic hair, but I was a married 22 yo woman when I did it the first time and I don’t keep it that way now. It’s something I choose to do occasionally. A child of SIX OR EIGHT years old should not be subjected to this practice and I think it should be considered sexual battery when done to a child who is not of legal age to consent.

    To those who think its not so bad…holy crap I just don’t even know how to address such screwed up thinking!

  37. Deanna says:

    I have had a bikini wax and I couldn’t stand the pain, it brought tears to my eyes. I really couldn’t imagine taking my 11 year old for a bikini wax never mind at the age of six. What do these mothers do hold down their daughters as they scream and cry and beg their moms for help? There is no way a child could handle that kind of pain.

  38. Jennifer says:

    Looking at my 5 year old daughter, it just makes me want to cringe. I thought the worst I needed to worry about was my mother and stepmother pressuring me to pierce her ears at 10 months. Screw waxing.

    Her body, her choice.

  39. Laura says:

    Isn’t this reminiscent of the horrific practice of genital mutilation? Perhaps this is a metaphoric practice of that more permanent, disfiguring, misogynistic evil.

  40. Nikki says:

    This too disturbing for words. What sort of pedophile sicko thought that this would be a good idea. These people are torturing their children and for what? So that years from now some teenage pervert will get excited that his girlfriend doesn’t have hair down there. Where is child protective services when you need them?

  41. Kerri says:

    I don’t know what you all are getting uptight about. I would have greatly appreciated this service as a child. I had hair that extended past my bathing suit and when I was little this kind of thing either wasn’t available or my parents didn’t know about it. I lost many many days at the beach because I was so embarrassed.
    Why do you all automatically assume this is child torture? You know what’s torture? Spending a half an hour in the shower before I go anywhere where I have to wear a bathing suit. Kudos to those of you who are OK with it. I’m not. If my daughter suffers the same over-hairiness that I have and something is available that will save her hours and embarrassment? You bet I’m going to look into it.

  42. Julie says:

    That is seriously disturbing! Even adults being so beauty oriented is bad enough but kids are getting slammed with these types of messages and that is just sad.
    Let kids be kids. They grow up quick enough as it is.

  43. Heather says:

    You don’t have to have kids to realize that this is totally sickening. People are absolutely insane. I can’t even believe that women do this to themselves, let alone their children. What is the point? Why are people so terrified of a little bit of hair?

  44. Hairy Lady says:

    I wish that this waxing had been an option when I was young and that I’d had a Mother with the foresight to take me.

    I have had a lifetime of saying no to going to beaches due to my horrendous pubic hair situation. I have very thick and coarse pubic hair that causes my skin to have horrible reactions to any treatment, even shaving. My pubic hair also grows well beyond the bikini line onto my butt cheeks and well down the front, inner and back of thighs! I cant even wear underwear because they cause me to have horrible skin irritations. It is disgusting!! Nor can I even wear your average style shorts without these pubes out for all to mock!!

    This has made my life a living nightmare at times. Having to live with this kills my sense of being a woman and it also makes it very hard to feel sexy.

    I am an otherwise tall, attractive woman who attracts great looking men, but only until they catch a glimpse or a feel and they basically run screaming.

    This is a horror that a few simple treatments at the right age could have prevented. If it can save a few girls from living with what I have had to live with, then let them do it.

    However, I do feel that it needs to be done within certain limitations, like only removing hair beyond the bikini line on people so young. For people who are experiencing abnormal hair growth of some kind. No full brazalians for the kiddies please!

    Someone on here had a good point, what if bald is no longer in? I personally have never found it attractive to see a full grown woman totally bald, it is quite creepy actually. I know many other people who feel the same way, hot men included!

  45. Tish says:

    Wow. That is truly sad and it’s truly a shame and a reflection of the times. It’s hard to fathom why anyone under the age of really 21 would need to get a bikini wax. I’m 24 and as the author stated I doubt I’ll ever get a bikini wax, I don’t even wax my legs.

    These children will have huge problems later on in life, if they aren’t already experiencing such.

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  46. I find it weird enough that my grown-up female friends do it, since they’re not the kind of women who go along with what magazines tell women they should do.

    Then, I’ve also had women tell me that I should get my back waxed….

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  47. Mandi says:

    Wow! I can’t even imagine how a mother can justify that, or how a responsible salon owner can offer that.

    Ultimately, the parents are the ones who should be accountable, but they never will because they are not “abusing” the child. Of course, what this will do to a young girls body image and sexual development…..I see years of therapy down the road.

  48. Maria says:

    This is to Sasha… the one who said….
    ” So… maybe 8 is the new 12?? something like that… If I had the option at that point in my life to go in for a few treatments and kill the hair follicles for goos, I would go back in time and do it!! for the record… waxing such fine “virgin” hair doesn’t hurt that much.. and should NEVER EVER be compared to the horrible practice of female genital mutilation!!! HOW DARE YOU trivialize Genital mutilation??!!!

    I can’t imagine the girls are going in there screaming against their will, so don’t call it child battery either. FOOLISH – yes! misguided- YES.

    But honestly, can’t you find something more serious to bitch about?”

    So do you think that when an adult has “consentual” sexual interactions with a child, that well, she wasn’t kicking and saying no, she wanted to try it, it must be O.K.? What is wrong with the world???
    It is never O.K. for and adult to touch a child in a private area. I have a 4 year old niece, just 2 years younger than the age they say you should start waxing them… and if my sister had that done to her, I’d have her put away for child abuse.
    This is something serious to bitch about. It’s appalling, and so is the fact that you think it’s O.K. 8 is the 12?!?!? what next, 14 is the new 18? Thank whatever entity there may be that you DON”T have kids, and hopefully you don’t have access or influence over any either.

  49. Erika says:

    I think some of you are missing the point. I too am appalled at our youth being thrust into adulthood nevermind unreasonable ideals for their bodies. However, I think the salon has a valid reason for waxing girls this young. I don’t think it is necessary, but some women get biki waxes every 6 weeks for 20 years. If I was one of these women I would seriously consider asking my daughter if she was interested. They say these “virgin” hairs will stop growing if waxed for a few sessions. That would be worth it to some.
    I would rather not make any judgement calls on who decides to do this. Unless it is against the childs wishes, who cares?

  50. What @Andrea said …

    This is a ridiculous concept and situation.

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  51. Saanya says:

    have a bikini wax instead of just wearin sumthin non-revealing??? such mothers should be classified in the ranks of hitler and stalin!!!
    in addition theyr encouragin their daughters to expose rather than be a bit more conservative…..i hope theyr happy wen theyr daughters feature on a playboy cover!

  52. Teri Piper says:

    Since probably most, if not all of us, have pubic hair, what’s the big deal? Why should we be required to hide who we are just to be accepted? What will people think of next to judge everybody else by? This world is getting a bit ridiculous, to say the least. If it weren’t so harmful, it might even be funny. But funny this isn’t.

  53. Meme says:

    Wow, this should be something illegal. Mothers that do this to their daughters, or take them in for this shit, should be charged and locked up for pedophilia in the least. Fucking disgusting!

  54. Charlotte says:

    Um, okay I don’t get the hysterics here.
    I don’t see how bikini waxes lead to breast implants or botox. Bikini waxing is very common. If not waxing, using some other method is also common. It is not nearly as drastic as botox or breast augmentation, and certainly not as permanent. If the argument is that your fine the way you are, anyone who cuts their hair, or shaves their legs, is being a hypocrite.
    Your bathing suit doesn’t have to be skimpy to show pubic hair, unless you believe anything other than shorts is too skimpy. And really would you rather hand the eight year old a razor?
    One of the responses I read here even went so far as top call it pedophilia, I think that person needs to look up the definition of pedophilia. And you do realize a bikini wax does not have to involve waxing or even exposing the woman’s genitals right?

  55. Sherry says:

    If you don’t “get the hysterics” then I don’t know how to make it clear for you. You don’t get why having young kids WAXING their bikini lines is wrong? Seriously? No, to answer your question, I wouldn’t hand an eight year old a razor. Because an eight-year-old should be outside playing and being a KID, not shaving legs and armpits and bikini lines. I spent entire summers swimming and at eight years old you don’t need to be worrying about bikini lines unless someone tells you that you do. If your eight year old is showing pubic hair, then the bathing suit is too skimpy and high cut to be age appropriate.

    I don’t agree that it’s pedophilia but I do think it’s pushing a beauty myth onto young children who should not be thinking yet about whether they should or should not have body hair. If you don’t get that, well, I guess you can take your young kids and wax them up.

  56. Charlotte says:

    For starters again with the bathing suit stuff, it does not have to be high cut or skimy, unless you think anything less than shorts is too skimpy, especially if the hair is entirely ungroomed, hair may also grow on the very top of the inner thighs, near where the legs meet the body, which would be visisble unless you wore shorts, ungroomed hair, may also curl under and become visible. I imagine the bikini waxes that are so common for twelve year olds, involve waxing only what would show outside of the bathing suit, I think it would actually set them up for lower self esteem, to force them to walk around with hairy underarms, legs, and bikini lines, if it made them really uncomfortable. Especially considereing the reception they’d probably get.

    You don’t have to tell them there is anything wrong with it for them to think there is, if your child is sensitive they will anyway, when someone teases them. If they did not remove their under arm hair the same thing would happen, by that age children already know it is common for people to shave, and being young they might not be nice about it.

    I wouldn’t call it a beauty myth, it is a preference, like with hair colour, size, shoe size, and eye shape, people may develop purely aesthetic preferences, but for women alot of it is comfort. Not just what they are comfortable with, but what is physically comfortable.

    Also to address the added part in your email “Also, the reason I mentioned botox and implants is not because itautomatically leads to that – plenty of ADULTS wax without changingeverything else. But my point was, if you start making someone feelbad about the way they look at the age of six or eight, then howimperfect will their body seem to them as they get older? There arealready so many negative body image messages out there (hello,Jennifer Love Hewitt is fat? People in Hollywood wearing size ZERO?),starting them out that young is just not going to help.”

    I still say a comparison to botox to and breast augmentation, is flimsy. Would you get your child’s hair cut? By your logic by doing so you are setting them up for a lifetime of self doubt and low self esteem. I know cutting hair is probably so common to you, but like trimming or removing body hair it can (and with hair on your head it most often is) be done simply to keep it looking beautiful. I am sure you can come up with purely practicle reasons for cutting the hair on your head too, but you can for removing body hair as well.

  57. sherry says:

    I think you’re really missing the main point of outrage – this isn’t adults or even teens with “ungroomed” hair sticking out of their bathing suits. This is about CHILDREN as young as SIX. There is no excuse for waxing A CHILD. If you see nothing wrong with that then I can’t even debate with you.

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  58. jenn says:

    Perhaps it’s because i’m Asian, but waxing doesn’t seem like such a ‘bad thing’. I don’t have much hair – anywhere (I was asked more than a few times if i waxed my arms!) I get a Brazilian wax regularly once a month since I turned 16, woke up one day and thought, “hmmm… I think I’ll try that today.”

    If waxing at an early age can prevent hair from growing down there (safely, securely, etc), I may consider scheduling an appointment for my daughter. But then again, an ‘early age’ to me means when they start growing hair – around puberty, not at the age of 6 or 8.
    Still, I consider that practice to be along the same lines as getting young kids their ears pierced, or hair put in cornrolls, earlobes elongated, feet broken, etc. ~ just another cultural ‘norm’.

    I just read the previous few posts. At first, I didn’t realize that we were talking about bikini waxing instead of Brazilian waxing. But now I can just shrug everything off because if my daughter was lucky enough to get my genes, then she doesn’t have to worry about the bikini area to be ‘accepted’ by southern californian beauty standards.

    Still, I understand sherry’s point about what it’s teaching our children. I just want to point out that children understand a lot more than you give them credit for. They may not be able to articulate it as succinctly as you or me, but they get the difference between ‘normal’ and ‘different’ at a very young age. I know I shouldn’t just be worried about what i’m teaching my kid ~ I should be worried about what my kid’s friends are being taught. Because, after all, my kid will most likely learn the majority of her life lessons through experiences with her close friends. And do I want my kid hanging out with girls that think hair down there isn’t normal?

    < The product of American culture.

  59. Tammy says:

    I think this is atrocious. There is absolutely no reason to remove hair like that, except for cosmetic purposes. But then again, mother (and dads) have been piercing their infant’s ears for years now, and really, how is that any different? What if the child grows up and doesn’t want a hole in their ears? Parents anymore are simply outrageous.

  60. Vee says:

    This article makes me angry, and not for the same reason it makes everyone else angry, when i was 9 I had the same amount of pubic hair as i do now, yes i know it is hard to imagine but it was true, and it was embarrassing! It was embarrassing because the hair was long enough to stick out the sides of my bathing suit. And one time my brothers friends happen to notice it while we were swimming, and boys can be so cruel about that sort of thing. I would have given anything to have permission to shave or wax that area!
    I’m guessing the girls who have these waxes done had the same problem that i did.

  61. Monica says:

    I just want to say that I am so pissed off that I am almost shaking. For those of you that DO NOT have children have no right to comment since you have NO idea what it is like to have a daughter that you need to shelter from the stereotypical beauty that is found in magazines.
    For those of you who keep saying that they wish their mother had done that for them when they were younger, is completely retarded. Looking back now with the experiences you have gone through, yes you would have liked it done. But at the age of 6 or 8 or 11 even, you would not be able to understand why this was happening to you and more than likely would have traumatized you in some little or major way. A 34 year old woman can understand why, an 8 year old CANNOT understand why this needs to be done.
    I do have a 3 year old daughter that takes after her father with dark hair. (I have blonde body hair so I have never needed to worry that much about body hair). My 3 year old has a very obvious amount of back hair all the way down her back and people have asked me if I am going to take her to get waxed if it is still there when she is a little older. NO!! NEVER!! When she is old enough to be embarrassed about it (probably a teenager), then we have a very long discussion about it. Even then it will be up to her and it will be only when she is old enough to make that decision on her own.
    If I ever find out that someone I know is doing something like this to their children I will be calling CPS immediately. I am SO outraged I can’t stand it.

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